I love books written by Dale Carnegie. I have read all of his older books. I just requested this newer book from the Library, and I am very interested to read this one regarding the Digital Age. (I think we are really a mess as a society because of this Digital Age)
From his older book, I wrote down 6 principles he gives to make people like you:
- Become genuinely interested in other people
- Smile
- Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
- Talk in terms of the other person's interests
- Make the other person feel important...and do it sincerely
The funny thing is...I have been talking lately about these things to the boys. Just yesterday, when we were at Trader Joe's, the checkout lady asked if we had any special plans for July 4th. I could have just said "not really." But, I went on to say that the boys would be working on a project car with their dad. She then asked what kind of car. Jar told her a Maverick. Then two other guys (probably college age) chimed in on the conversation. That made the boys feel really good.
So, on the way home, I discussed with them the importance of finding a topic to talk about that other people are interested in discussing. I also told them the importance of being friendly and opening up the conversation to more than just a "yes" or "no" answer. I then also talked about the importance of remembering a person's name and speaking it often. I love using everyday moments as teaching opportunities.
What a great experience for the boys to realize the lessons we're speaking to them.
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