I also had so many distressing things happen all at once. I did another post on that a couple of months ago. There are dates that I will never forget:
- March 2 - Grandma Joseph died
- April 5 - Dad Smith died
- November 14 - my miscarriage
- November 17 - Dad died
"When you are mourning, when something terrible has
happened, it's on your mind and right at the top of your heart all of the
time. It is genuinely shocking to you that the sun is still shining and that
people are still chattering away on Good Morning America. Your world has
changed, utterly, and it feels so incomprehensible that the bus still
comes and the people in cars next to you on the highway just drive along as if
nothing's happened."
When you are in that place, it is a gift to be asked how you are doing...and really genuinely mean it. They don't offer "words of wisdom" to you. They listen, and they let you feel your pain. They share in that pain with you. They don't say to you, "Oh, there was probably something wrong with the baby,so it is a good thing that you miscarried." It still angers me today as I type this. That does not help at all. We are hurting, and we just need someone to share that hurt with us.
The other thing about this book that really hit home for me was that "finding home" is so hard. It is especially hard if you live somewhere for a long time, and then you leave that place. You try to make a home in a new place, and that is just not easy. I know that I have not felt "at home" since PA. Sometimes I do wonder if I ever will again. It is so hard for me.
I recommend this book to anyone who has endured some suffering or longs for a place to call home. It is a great read.
I empathize with your thoughts and feeling.
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